My first post

Hello everyone. This is it ... my first post on any sort of blog I've created, ever. How exciting.

If anyone out there actually cares (and I'm not banking on it) my blog is called The Lazy PUA because, well, I'm a lazy motherfucking PUA. I'll be maintaining a pretty high degree of anonymity on this blog at all times, but I don't think there's any point in having a blog in the first place without some kind of background knowledge as to why I'm doing it.

I'm a pretty ordinary guy living just outside a major UK city who's just about to turn 25. And, like a hell of a lot of "ordinary" guys, I don't do anywhere near as well with the opposite sex as I'd like to. Over the years, I've had one girlfriend who was below-average in just about every department and I basically just settled for her. I've had a handful of other short-term relationships, a couple with pretty decent girls but others with girls who again I just settled for. Other than that, my experience with women amounts to occasional drunken kisses in nightclubs -- you know the sort of drunken kisses that make you a bit queasy when you see them, with tongue wrestling and arse fondling in full view of everyone -- that's the sort I'm talking about. As for getting laid ... well, let's just say that it's been so long that pretty soon I'll be an honorary virgin.

The thing is though, I am honestly one of the biggest underachievers with women that I know, and I don't say that with the slightest bit of arrogance. I'm no Brad Pitt, but I'm definitely an above average looking guy, better looking than most of my mates. I'm no Einstein, but I'm definitely above average in terms of intelligence. I'm no Peter Kay, but I can make people roll around in laughter. I'm also genuinely confident, generally content and secure in my own skin. People generally like me and I'd say I have above average social skills. In other words, I have a lot of very attractive qualities. Again, I must emphasise that I'm not saying this with any degree of arrogance. I'm simply looking at myself objectively and writing what I see; believe me, I've gone through periods of low self-esteem in my life, but thankfully I'm well past that.

So ... since I've just let Blogland know exactly how amazing I am in every department, you might be wondering why I have such little success with the opposite sex. The answer is simple: I am a lazy bastard.

Although I'm pretty confident these days, it wasn't always so. When I was aged 19-20, I went through a serious bout of depression caused by many things, including my inability to get a girlfriend. At my lowest point, I discovered the PUA community via Google. Now, in future posts I might write more about what I think of this movement, including its major flaws, but it was (almost literally) a lifesaver for me. I changed my attitudes, my view of the world, my self-esteem, my habits and my actions. It worked ... sort of. I started pulling the odd girl in a bar or at a party. I was able to start conversations with girls on the street, in shops, in nightclubs and on buses and get a few phone numbers. I went from borderline suicidal to contented and looking forward to the future.

And then ... I did what I always seem to do. I have many positive character traits, but like everyone else I have many negative ones. In my opinion, one of my greatest flaws is that I'll get to a certain level of proficiency in something and then settle for it. For example, if I worked a little bit harder at uni I could have got a first-class honours degree. As it turned out, I did what I had to do and no more, although luckily for me I've ended up getting a decent, reasonably well-paid job anyway. I've had a couple of periods of fitness fanaticism in my life, but then I'll get complacent, go back to the lager and Chinese takeaways and attend the gym sporadically. As I type, I'm sweating uncomfortably in the summer heat as a result of being a little out of shape. Pickup is no exception. After my initial successes a few years ago, I got into the mindset of thinking "I know what to say to a girl and how to get her interested in me because I've read Juggler/Badboy/David Deangelo etc. I'll just get pissed tonight, not bother about pulling and start next week/next month/in the new year". This is one of the most self-defeating things anyone can do, and I'm the world's worst for it. At 25 (almost) I most certainly don't feel old. Hey, I'm not 18 any more, but my philosophy is to enjoy being the age you are. I've got plenty of time to have fun with a few ladies, but I can't afford to become lazy and complacent. If I wake up when I'm 30 and realise I've wasted all the opportunities from the last few years, I'll be regretting it for the rest of my life, and I know it.


So why the blog?

I've long considered starting a diary/journal in order to track my progress as I strive towards getting good with women. However, I think putting a blog on the net (albeit a totally anonymous one) will help provide me with the motivation I need. This might end up being read by thousands, or perhaps fewer than a dozen people. Either way, when I know there are people out there who will be tracking my progress, it'll make me realise what I should be doing.

I can come on here any time, click a few links and see how I've progressed and what I've learned. And when I look at the date of my last post and realise I've done fuck all since then, it should get me going!

There are many guys out there who have incredible balls putting video diaries of themselves on the net as they strive towards becoming master PUAs. Here are two great examples:
Aaron (iamnotapua): www.youtube.com/iamnotapua
Jack Coxwell: www.youtube.com/AaactionMan
I would love to do this, as I'm sure it would motivate me further still, but unfortunately I have to remain completely anonymous. Let's just say I work in a rather "conservative" profession and it wouldn't go down well if one of my colleagues stumbled upon a video of me chatting up girls and giving post-sex feedback on YouTube.


What to expect

There are many, many, many great PUA blogs out there written by guys who are full of useful information and insight, and which are brilliant to read. I'm not guaranteeing anything like that. You might find my posts boring, repetitive and monotonous. You might disagree with almost everything I say and do. If you're a seasoned PUA, you might shake your head in disbelief at my lack of knowledge.

This is not intended to be a famous PUA blog with millions of loyal followers. It's just the story of one ordinary lazy motherfucking bastard trying to improve this area of his life. Like I said, whether my regular readership is 10 or 10,000,000, I don't care. This is a journal to inspire and motivate me primarily, but if anyone out there is influenced by it, that's great. It's a place where I can record my successes, failures, thoughts, joys and insecurities in a public yet private manner.

If you want to comment on any of my posts and give me advice, that would be very much appreciated. But if you're bored already, no hard feelings.

Looking forward to getting this started!!

Jack Hunter
The Lazy PUA