Practically 100% of the guys all over the world who know anything about the PUA Community will have read The Game by Neil Strauss. Like most aspiring PUAs, I read it shortly after discovering the Community. I know it's not meant to be a step-by-step guide on how to pick up women, but it is definitely a good introduction to the PUA lifestyle, both its positive and negative aspects.
A quick look through YouTube channels and Pickup companies' websites reveals that this book has had a phenomenal affect on thousands, perhaps millions of guys' lives throughout the world. They have gone from geeks, shy guys, nice guys, mama's boys, social retards etc. into confident ladies' men. Of course, the book (along with the Community in general) has also affected many guys in a negative way, but that's another topic.
There are many more however, who have read this book, learned a bit about the Community etc. and then done fuck all about it. I'm one - hence the blog title!! However, I have a friend (for purposes of anonymity let's call him ...um ... Juan) who I know for a fact has read The Game and like me hasn't done anything about it. Juan now lives in another town but is certainly within reasonable driving distance and I go over to see him semi-regularly. He first brought up the subject a couple of years ago on a drunken night in the pub. With my social inhibitions all but obliterated by alcohol, I told him that I'd also read it and that I wanted to get into this PUA stuff. The next day, we were both a little uncomfortable about the conversation and didn't bring it up again.
Recently however, he has brought it up to me twice. The first was in a nightclub when he was talking about bitch shield to me and another mate (let's call him Woody) and it could have come straight from Tyler Durden or Neil Strauss. The second was on a stag do, when he brought up the subject explicitly (while pissed) and confided that he was too much of a shitbag to do anything about it. He clearly reads about it a lot, but won't do anything out of fear.
Will I make Juan my wingman?? Why or why not??
I have made a firm decision to stay away from the PUA Community, especially local lairs, for reasons I don't care to elaborate on just now. Juan is the type of guy who can do well socially but is often awkward and is far behind me overall. Like I said, he can also be a shitbag. I think if I start talking about all this stuff he'll geek out with PU jargon etc. and actually hold me back for the time being. In addition, I'm nowhere near competent enough to give good advice to someone yet; I should work on myself first.
Having said that, when I start to get really decent, he may well be a good wingman. A good thing is that he lives out of town, so I can travel over to his town for some fun. I could go on the pull at his place, doing the hard work and hooking him up with my girls' pals. Obviously he'll notice and ask what's happening with me etc.
Whatever you do, don't go down the "PUA" route with him. Teach him, get him decent, help him, go on the pull, but keep it "natural", not PUA-ish. You can also have fun with some of your other single mates, but as for Juan, be very careful about how you approach the issue.
Jack Hunter
The Lazy PUA
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